Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Sermon 16: Divaism

I have been thinking and observing the diva concept for a while now. I have really been paying attention to the behaviors of women who call themselves Diva. I've actually been observing homosexual men who call themselves Diva as well.

I have heard people explain this ism in many different ways, it's had all kinds of twist, turns and loops. But I have noticed that one behavior is constant with Divaism. Some may hate me for this cause some are die hard in Divaism, but hey, all I have to offer is healing take it or leave it. I tell you because I love you.

So, to be frank I have noticed in Divaism that a lot of women are conducting themselves as selfish, loud, bitter, insecure, and starving for attention. I seen that the play of heightened security is really a mask of insecurities. It is a facade to try to make everyone believe that they are confident. Everyone wants to be honored, but we cannot force people to do so. We cannot force anyone to respect us. The results will be the opposite.

In Divaism there is a hard shell that is formed. Divaism is a defense mechanism. It is a my way or no way attitude. In a world of so many, in a world of so much chaos, in a world with so much potential to love, we must learn to compromise. It is NOT all about you. You are important and divine and wonderful, so are others.

A "Bitch I'm me you better prostrate" attitude goes no where in the sense of healing from trauma, self loathing, abuse, low self esteem. It is a cover up. Really are you really loving yourself and who you are if you make others feel low around you, or you feel all must bow to your every selfish whim.

Nobody wants a mean and nasty woman around them. Get it together.

This is not to negate the women who have truly made conscious efforts toward self-love. I know I am going to get messages saying well I call myself Diva and I truly feel confident and I know how to treat people, and I work to uplift etc. I applaud you. You are truly divine (hm I wonder if diva came from the word divine)and you are an exception. I see you too, the focused ones with true confidence that will not let any one define them or get in their way of success. The ones that can smile and know that they are fine and fly without trying to make people see it. I see you. I honor you. I believe that Divas want to feel this way, they want to feel divine, but they are going about it the wrong way. They are looking for outside acceptance first when it should be the other way around. They are struggling inside. They are crying inside and praying for true self love and to be free from the darkness of extreme insecurity.

In a book "Sacred Woman" by Queen Afua she has a section where she talks about the "Bitch Possesion." She says, "a bitch is an unrealized woman, encased in pain and filled with fear. She is a woman who feels trapped by life, surrounded by and absorbed in her own waste." She goes on to say that "The Bitch is a negative entity or spirit that possesses the body temple of a woman who has already been filled with rage, hate, envy and despair. It is the opposite of being a sacred woman, and ultimately she will strangle and destroy the one who is possessed by her."

Look at that! I mean for real. Some equate Divaism with being a bitch. Woman are proud of being bitches, of being sick, of being possessed with a demon!!! I've heard women say I celebrate my bitch, my multi-facedness as a woman goddess. This is bull, stop making excuses for that your junk for that demon. Recognize you need healing and do it. I'm not telling you to beat up on yourself more, I'm telling you to accept that this is happening and take measures to heal it.

A true Goddess has a sweet disposition. She works to heal her wounds and those of others. We all have the potential to be great, beautiful powerful goddesses without forcing it.

Let us Pray: Remove from us the need to over power or displace our insecurities on others. Help us to realize the difference between pain and true confidence. Guide us through our healing so we may live in light. Give Thanks!!


  1. seems like Diva is a Bitch with a bigger bank account or more attitude -- it used to be called stuck up -- when will we simply be and drop all these labels?

  2. This post is sooo on point! And very true! I need to read the Queen Afua book that you quoted.

  3. I loved your article about being a Diva. However, I think that the Divas who call themselves divas use it in the wrong way. I have started my own blog talk radio called Divine Diva 2009. I also called my blog I don't see anything wrong with Diva because I am a unique Diva. I have always carried myself like a lady. Thank you sista for the blog. It was great.


Note: Only a member of this blog may post a comment.