Dance Floor Orgasm

I have been really feeling the connection dance has to sexual energy and to being sensually present, more than usual and it feels great. I went dancing last night and during cool down I felt as if I was in trance. The room felt like a small caldron of bliss, the sounds blurred and I could not keep my eyes open. I resisted for a minute because I felt everyone would look at me like what in the world, but the feeling of bliss was so intense that it did not matter. Besides this was my moment of enjoyment and I didn’t care anymore. So I danced with my eyes closed being grateful for the moment. I begin to moan and felt a huge smile over my face. It felt so good. I thought if every woman would just dance and move with intent this could be a huge problem solver for the lack of femininity and sensuality that some are experiencing.

There was a great sense of joy that I felt. I opened my eyes and looked around. It seemed all the women were feeling it too! Those that became comfortable anyway. The look on their faces matched my feeling. Wow! When you have a group of women who let go of their insecurities, who are all shapes and sizes. Woman who feel comfortable with each other and let go of competition and jealousy, all in one room sharing energy as powerful as the energy generated in dance...Whoa we can move the world. Talking about collective orgasm!

This happened to me in dance class before. It was a little different however. There were live drums and more yang movement than belly dance. Again during cool down, or circle where everyone free styles, I had my eyes closed and this intense energy began to swim in my belly. It was one of the best feelings I’ve ever felt and I wanted to shout and jump and run for joy. I mean the feeling had no words to explain it.

Another time I saw this happen to someone else on the dance floor. We see this all the time, the intense bumping and grinding at the club or party. Some look like they are in trance and just need to get a room. They are in trance! That energy is powerful and moving through them strongly. It is a good thing. When they leave that party they will feel new and energized, sensual and powerful, mostly translated as "Man I had a blast!" How many times has this happened to you, you hit the dance floor and came away feeling more attractive and energized?

The party I went too, I watched this woman take this man through every position possible. I mean she worked him out on the dance floor. He did not know what hit him. He got into to it eventually after he got over the shock. In their own little corner they pulled hair and sweated and went through every asana they could in dance. There were also live drums at this party which made it even more intense. This was truly a sight to behold. I wonder if they got each other's number.

I mean music and movement can be an antidote for those who have not experienced orgasm or for those who have trouble being in the moment. Try it put on some music and dance like no-one is looking and feel the stress fall off, feel how powerful you will feel. Try dancing sensually and touching yourself while you are dancing, or try booty shaking and see how you feel. I bet you won't be disappointed.

The Conundrum of Female Orgasm

Over half of American women have never experienced an orgasm. Female orgasm still remains one of the most mysterious subjects in the study of female sexual response. Some health officials still question whether it even exists.
The whole subject of female orgasm sometimes leaves women confused and frustrated, while leaving others purring with anticipation. You all have seen the images of the happily sexed or hyper-sexual woman in the media who is dripping with sexiness who anxiously awaits and ecstatically enjoys her every sexual encounter. While this image is prevalent in media, some women think orgasm is a myth or an urban legend. I’ve even heard women say “sex is way overrated.” Other women try to convince the naysayers that sexual ecstasy and orgasm are real and they too can be fulfilled. I mean why not? Why can’t every woman feel sexy, sweet, confident and sexual fulfilled?

There are any numbers of reasons why women do not have orgasm. Many women have had traumatic experiences, suffer with health issues and some need an attitude makeover. One of the major reasons is the lack of femininity in women today. Because of life’s experiences and societal pressures, women have lost their natural ability to be kind. Unhealthy relationships and trying to climb the corporate ladder can cause women to form a hard shell. Women are not realizing that you catch bees with honey, not vinegar.

While men have their part in enjoyable sexual experiences and healthy communication, women have to awaken to their part as well. Women have to take charge of their sexual pleasure. The first thing they can do is adjust their attitude and the way they think about sex.

What are your thoughts about sex?
1. Do you think it is solely the man’s job to make you feel good?
2. Do you come to bed already ready to get it over with?
3. Do you feel that sex is for the pleasure of your partner only?
4. Sex is overrated.
5. Sex is a sin
6. If I do it he will like me, or if I don’t he might be angry.

Some detrimental attitudes:
1. All men are dogs.
2. I will just get hurt.
3. I don’t need a man.
4. I can just use toys.
5. Men are just good for one thing.
6. I can trust him as far as I can see him.
7. He can’t do anything for me that I can’t do for myself.

While these are just a few thoughts that allow for a women’s femininity to go out the window, there are many more. Harboring these thoughts leads to a resentful attitude. They make a women feel bitter and victimized. There is nothing more unattractive than a bitter and snappy woman. If the majority of your thoughts about sex and your partners are negative, your actions will also be negative. Your general disposition will be negative as well. Your thoughts are energy and that negative energy will be all over you, for all to feel. These thoughts cause blockages in your mind; body and spirit that make it extremely difficult to enjoy anything, especially sex and the gift of orgasm. You then develop a defensive attitude, and become irritable, disgusted, mean and jealous. You become closed towards life, and the ones who really want to love you.

An important thing for women to realize is that being sweet or having the ability to compromise or even being vulnerable is not weakness or being docile, but actually is the core of their feminine power. You are able to attract anything you want or decide the outcome of a situation by the way you act. This includes your ability to experience orgasm. By allowing yourself to do things like be vulnerable, you open yourself to healing and receiving love and affection. This is more attractive than any physical attribute. Opening yourself will open your world of sexual pleasure.

Men want to please, protect and take care of you. They want to know that you are pleased and enjoy your experiences with them. What women have to do is just let them. You do not always have to be in control or on watch. It is okay to let go, close your eyes be loved and just be.

Yes, you need to learn how to do this in order to have an orgasm and enjoyable sexual experiences. Our body, minds, and spirit are connected so in order to heal one area it is best to look at the others. “I just want to have great sex,” you say? Well what you really are saying is, “I want to have a great life. I want someone to honor and love me. I want to know how to honor and love myself. I want to live orgasmically. I want to be happy. I need to learn how to be more sensual. I need to be healthy. I don’t want to be angry or miserable all of the time. I want to let go of the pain from so and so, I want to learn to let go. If you deal with these things your sex life or lack thereof; nor your ability to experience orgasm will be such a conundrum.

So all this talk about great sex and mind blowing orgasm is really not such a great mystery or myth. We all can truly enjoy our experiences with some self – reflection, self – love, conscious efforts and clearing. Here are 10 quick ways to get started.

• Smile more
• Take up dance
• Find something beautiful about yourself every day.
• Say please and thank you
• Find something beautiful about your partner or someone you know every day and tell them.
• Go on a complaining fast.
• Take a sensual bath and take time to moisturize every inch of your body slowly, paying attention to the sensation only.
• Where only the clothes that make you feel like a sexy goddess.
• Eat more fruits and veggies every day.
• Except compliments

Got You Coming Baby!!!

I haven't forgot about yall! Im working on some new and great things just for you!!! LOVE YOU!!!

Sermon 17: Healing Waters

He took her by the hand and led her to the couch. "I have a gift for you," he said. She sat on the couch as he knelt in front of her removed her sweater. He kissed her neck. He kissed her shoulders the creases in her arms. He gently pulled her hair allowing her head to give way so he could lick the nape of her neck.

He began to remove the rest of her clothing. Her mind was telling her to resist, because he is new, but her body and spirit would not listen to her mind chatter for once. She didn't know why maybe he had some kind of magic.

She allowed him to disrobe her as her mouth moaned on its own. He lay her back. Her breath was heavy as ever. He just touched lightly, gliding his warm hands across her body.

She moaned louder and bit her bottom lip. He smiled knowing she was beginning to boil. She arched her back and scratched his arms trying to pull him closer.

He knew she was ready. She frantically removed his clothes and pulled him atop her. But he would not enter. She was confused. "It's time for that gift" he said. "What!? she cried back.

He licked his fingers and found his way through her bush. He entered his fingers with a deep thrust that shocked her into ecstasy. He did not stop. This was unlike anything she ever felt. She was frightened but it felt good. She was embarrassed but it still felt good. Than it was overwhelming and she wanted him to stop. He just said "Don't be afraid of your gift" and kept going. She felt vulnerable but safe. She did not know what was happening.

"Breathe," he said and she did. She let out a moan that sounded more like a cry. "What are you touching it feels funny?" she asked. "Your healing button, he said, breathe and trust me right now and your healing waters will flow." She did.

Her body began to shake. Her moans became even louder. Her tears came first. She cried aloud as she felt her body and spirit surrendering. Surrender to bliss, to life, to love, to happiness, to healing, to growth and clarity, to being feminine to being orgasmic!

Then...it happened all in one Gush. She just felt all this warm liquid release with her intense pleasure. She had baptizes his hand

She just lay there paralyzed with bliss and wonder. He smiled, "welcome to a new life."

She got up curious to see what she was laying in. The couch was soaked with her healing. She was purified.

Stay tuned for another post on female ejaculation and its benefits and how to achieve it.

Orgasm Over-dose

Have you ever felt like you just got high on the best drug ever after having sex. Did you find it hard to keep your eyes open and somehow noticed you were nodding like you took a hit of some GOOD STUFF. What about your hands, did they tingle and become limp. Did your legs shake uncontrollably and you finally realized you just could not take any more.

Oh and your face, did it contort without your consent, and did the moans compose an extended symphony from your mouth. Did you feel like you could fly? Were you possessed by laughter?

Where you unable to resist excess praises of your partner?

Well this sounds like you overdosed, overdosed on orgasm. This is a good thing. This is where the magic comes in. The overwhelming bliss. The time when everything seems perfect.

An orgasmic overdose may leave your body comatose for a bit, while it experiences the multi- levels of ecstasy. While this is happening your spirit is rejoicing and the universe is asking you to impregnate it with your wishes while it implants its seeds of clarity in your heart. AHHHHH ORGASM!

You should never feel depleted after an orgasm. You may have ecstasy coma, but you should feel renewed, blissful, happy, in love (with everything), powerful,sexy and on and on.

Let me tell you how to get your overdose. Do you think your ready for this? It is the best high you can ever dream of.

Make sure you are thoroughly aroused before hand, or if you are not and you start sex any way make sure you become aroused. Get in your favorite position(s) and ride that out to the point of orgasm. When you reach orgasm don't stop! Just go a little slower than speed it up again, another will follow. Allow your body to experience the waves. When you think you had enough breath and take some more, another will follow. Think sexy thoughts. Stay present, continue to bring your thoughts back to that moment. (or fantasize if that helps) Do not hold back any screams contortions whatever. Forget about what you look like. Relax, and breath into the pleasure. If your face contortions are bothering you to the point where you are focusing on how you look and not the pleasure put a pillow over your face and scream into it all you want.

You will know when enough is really enough but don't stop to soon. Happy orgasm!

Sermon 16: Divaism

I have been thinking and observing the diva concept for a while now. I have really been paying attention to the behaviors of women who call themselves Diva. I've actually been observing homosexual men who call themselves Diva as well.

I have heard people explain this ism in many different ways, it's had all kinds of twist, turns and loops. But I have noticed that one behavior is constant with Divaism. Some may hate me for this cause some are die hard in Divaism, but hey, all I have to offer is healing take it or leave it. I tell you because I love you.

So, to be frank I have noticed in Divaism that a lot of women are conducting themselves as selfish, loud, bitter, insecure, and starving for attention. I seen that the play of heightened security is really a mask of insecurities. It is a facade to try to make everyone believe that they are confident. Everyone wants to be honored, but we cannot force people to do so. We cannot force anyone to respect us. The results will be the opposite.

In Divaism there is a hard shell that is formed. Divaism is a defense mechanism. It is a my way or no way attitude. In a world of so many, in a world of so much chaos, in a world with so much potential to love, we must learn to compromise. It is NOT all about you. You are important and divine and wonderful, so are others.

A "Bitch I'm me you better prostrate" attitude goes no where in the sense of healing from trauma, self loathing, abuse, low self esteem. It is a cover up. Really are you really loving yourself and who you are if you make others feel low around you, or you feel all must bow to your every selfish whim.

Nobody wants a mean and nasty woman around them. Get it together.

This is not to negate the women who have truly made conscious efforts toward self-love. I know I am going to get messages saying well I call myself Diva and I truly feel confident and I know how to treat people, and I work to uplift etc. I applaud you. You are truly divine (hm I wonder if diva came from the word divine)and you are an exception. I see you too, the focused ones with true confidence that will not let any one define them or get in their way of success. The ones that can smile and know that they are fine and fly without trying to make people see it. I see you. I honor you. I believe that Divas want to feel this way, they want to feel divine, but they are going about it the wrong way. They are looking for outside acceptance first when it should be the other way around. They are struggling inside. They are crying inside and praying for true self love and to be free from the darkness of extreme insecurity.

In a book "Sacred Woman" by Queen Afua she has a section where she talks about the "Bitch Possesion." She says, "a bitch is an unrealized woman, encased in pain and filled with fear. She is a woman who feels trapped by life, surrounded by and absorbed in her own waste." She goes on to say that "The Bitch is a negative entity or spirit that possesses the body temple of a woman who has already been filled with rage, hate, envy and despair. It is the opposite of being a sacred woman, and ultimately she will strangle and destroy the one who is possessed by her."

Look at that! I mean for real. Some equate Divaism with being a bitch. Woman are proud of being bitches, of being sick, of being possessed with a demon!!! I've heard women say I celebrate my bitch, my multi-facedness as a woman goddess. This is bull, stop making excuses for that your junk for that demon. Recognize you need healing and do it. I'm not telling you to beat up on yourself more, I'm telling you to accept that this is happening and take measures to heal it.

A true Goddess has a sweet disposition. She works to heal her wounds and those of others. We all have the potential to be great, beautiful powerful goddesses without forcing it.

Let us Pray: Remove from us the need to over power or displace our insecurities on others. Help us to realize the difference between pain and true confidence. Guide us through our healing so we may live in light. Give Thanks!!

Sermon 15: Jealousy is non-orgasmic

Our beauty is expressed in many different ways. It is expressed in different sizes, shapes, colors and tones. Yet we all become so caught up in how someone else's beauty is expressed. Most times it is not in an appreciative manner either. It is not, "Oh she is so beautiful, it is "she is more beautiful than I, she is more successful, he is more popular, sings better, dresses better, better ideas, capitalized on that idea and I didn't" and so on and so forth. We have so many hangups with this to the point where it makes us literally crazy.

There is so much anxiousness about being "ideal" or how others view us that the insecurities become a detriment to our sexual responsiveness.

Sometime women when seeing other beautiful women will automatically think, "if my man sees her he is going to want her. Or that is really the kind of woman my man likes." If you have this type of insecurity of course it is going to exude from you, that is not sexy. Even in the sexual act, that will show up because maybe you don't feel as skinny as she, so you will keep your shirt on. Or maybe you think because she seems so confident that she is great in bed so you want to do all the nasty freaky things so he will only want you. Not because you want too, or find enjoyment form those things. He may find the woman or women that you are so obsessed with to be repulsive you never know. But if he doesn't that is ok, Men are naturally attracted to women and there are more beautiful women on earth than just you. But you know what, he is with you. So work on it and make it a happy union where you feel honored and beautiful.

I mean it is not that serious that her butt is shaped different than hers, yours is beautiful too. Does it really matter that her hair is longer, your short hair brings out your cheekbones, and your smile brightens a room and your intelligent as hell. Learn to find the wonderful things about you. Say, "she is beautiful, and so am I." that will stop that jealousy spirit in its tracks.

Men, if you are extremely jealous,if your woman cannot walk 5 paces alone without you having a heart attack, or you have to know what she is doing, who she talked to, where she went every second, there can be some problems in your love life. Love does not have to be controlling. She is going to shut down sexually. She is not going to want to give it too you as she would if she felt happy and allowed to be who she is. I mean women love a strong fiery man who is going to protect her, but not an insecure man who is going to flip out if he even thinks another man is looking at her. This is a sign of some major insecurities that will show up in the relationship sometimes as physical abuse. What woman wants to have sex with a man she is afraid of.

We all have to work on ways that we can see and appreciate who we are and what we have to offer. We all have great things, even if we do not see them right now. I challenge you to find 5 things right now that make you great! Having confidence is sexy!

Let us pray: We know that because we have come from you, the great universe, we must be special. Help us to see this and feel this everyday. Help us to not be resentful of others because we can see clearly their beauty, when it is difficult for us to appreciate our own, but allow them to be mirrors to help us to see our greatness. Give Thanks!