Monday, October 27, 2008
More and more women are actively taking charge of their love for self. They are actively searching and growing into awareness of their Goddess within. Doing this, I believe, is vital if we are to have collective healing. The Goddess nurtures and guides. She heals and protects. She creates and destroys. She is a source of pleasure. She LOVES.
Tapping into the Goddess is extremely empowering. It is a powerful initiation into womanhood. It is the admittance to use her powers on this earth to bring forth the aforementioned. However, like any great power it can be abused. It can be misunderstood and not properly guided if we have not truly taken all of the steps to heal the many blockages we have built up over time. The goddess, in my opinion has to be an example of love.
I was motivated to write this blog because I have encountered many women who call themselves goddess. They are in a position where they can be an example for others to bring what we need in this world. Instead I have seen them being an example of separatist behavior or some kind of women supremacy with the guise of “woman power.” (I too have been guilty of this at one time). They have been bashing men and speaking as if “the men” are less than the woman or are the enemy.
We all have been hurt at some point in our life, men and women. Yes it is true that some men need to step up. They need to heal. This is also true for women. Women who have interest in tapping into to the goddess must heal their past pains and disappointments so their attempt to help will not be bitterness wrapped in a pretty or thought evoking, emotion stirring words that have the potential to bring more harm than good. Yes we have the potential to be all powerful Goddess’ and our men have the potential to be all powerful Gods. We have to help each other. We need each other. We must learn how to love each other again. As someone told me we all have our different ways of healing and bringing balance. She said she could come as a gentle wave or a tsunami. The thing is we have to heal and bring balance, and we have to know when we are bringing this or bringing the opposite. We all have our stuff. We need a cleansing, detoxing, something.
Let Us Pray: Goddess for your sake, help us to use your power wisely. Help us not to judge, but to see the potential for growth and be an example of such. Show us the most appropriate way to bring your messages. Let us not hold contempt in our hearts for our men or for our women but as we find the way, we can graciously show the ones who want to know. Give Thanks!
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Masturbation is a great practice in being more sensual. It is also a way to get to know your body, the spots that make you moan a little louder, what you may not like. This is always good that way you can tell your partner. I strongly believe that you have to know how to please yourself in order for anyone else to be able to do it. Women are responsible for their pleasure. Your partner is a tremendous help but you have to know what makes you feel good.
Masturbation can help you to have more appreciation for your body and its own beauty. You will begin to appreciate how it feels, how it looks, every part of it, how it smells, how it moves. Learning how to be intimate with you, in my experience can be one of the greatest healing experiences. It can remove blocks or negative thoughts that you may have about sex. It can remove low self esteem, and open the way to powerful orgasms. In combination with other things it has done these for me.
I didn’t always have the most enjoyable sex or orgasms. I liked the closeness and it was fun at times. I liked being with a man, but most of the time sex was for his pleasure. (They never knew that) hehe.
Then one day I decided that was it. Why am I not enjoying every bit of this experience? I did have clitoral orgasms with masturbation, but I wanted it all. I wanted to have an orgasm with a man inside of me. You know all the shaking, and moaning, eyes rolling in the back of the head type of orgasm. (Even though most orgasms are different) I am too fine and sensual not to be having orgasms. I deserve to be thoroughly pleased as well. So I went on a mission.
The thing is to have all of these benefits that I mentioned you have to take time. You can not just want to rush to the orgasm. You can not go to work relentlessly on your yoni (vagina) being impatient and harsh and expect results. Be gentle and loving, freaky and nasty if that’s what you like. But do not beat up on your self.
A few techniques which will be in my book are helpful and reminders to be the sensual you, savoring every bit of your experience.
1. Set the mood with candles, your favorite music, scents etc.
2. Take a nice sensual bath making sure to touch all of the crevices you have neglected
3. Look at your body in the mirror. Don’t be negatively judgmental, if there are things you do not like pass them or find beauty. Pay attention to the things you like and think how beautiful and sexy you are. Even do a seductive dance. Learn how to turn yourself on. (you will find ways in my upcoming book)
4. Lay down in your setting and touch yourself sensually. Think thoughts that turn you on. Think how sexy and sexual you are and will be. Get yourself real HOT. Use feathers and fabric, oils and lotions.
5. In my case I wanted to experience a vaginal orgasm so after I was completely boiling and wet I used a cucumber. Yes I was getting my veggies a whole new way! I moved it to all the spots that felt sensitive that felt good and kept it in those spots. Ah man in no time I was moaning louder and shaking uncontrollably. I felt empowered. I felt beautiful and sexual. I felt flirtatious and like a true goddess.
I can not go into it in great detail here but pleasing yourself can be the greatest gift you can give to you. It is a well needed and liberating journey into self love.