Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Come Hither


"Sweet Assertiveness"


"Sweet Assertiveness"

Dripping in hematite and rose quartz, need help intiating? This strand can be a great reminder. Be sweet and hot, hematite brings the fire of mars while rose quartz brings sweetness and fluidity. hematite is a magnet ans is said to improve relationships and is one of the highest spritual stones. T...his stone gives you energy for those long nights and courage to be unapologetic, if you feel you have to much masculine energy do not use this.

Fits 28'-29' waist $15



made with deep red garnet, said to enhance passion, this strand is perfect for the nights when you want to heat it up an extra notch or if you need a reason to bring the fire back into your the bedroom. Waist beads are enhanced with sparkiling heart shaped swarovki crystal,glass beads, and copper findings. Fits 32'-34' waist $25

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Come Hither


Flirty and colorful, this strand is dripping with rose quartz said to attract love and gives a sense of self-worth therefore being worth love. You won't be able to keep em away with this combination of seductive color crystals, and glass and heart shaped beads. Fits 29' - 31' inch waist $20

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Sexual Enhancing Waist Beads

I have something for you....something delicious, something that will make you feel like the sexiest, most sensual woman. I have the perfect gift for your woman.

Dripping Bliss Sensual Enhancing Belly Beads Are Here! It is time to indulge.

"Heavenly Bliss"

Remember to stay in the moment, relax and breathe to feel the bliss that feels like heaven. These beads are dripping in fluorite and amethyst gemstones. Flourite is said to help in staying present and amethyst has a calming effect. With a silver butterfly pendant and sparkling crystal beads you too can float on cloud nine and feel feminine and light with enjoyment.

Fits 29' - 35' waist $35

Monday, November 16, 2009

First Time's a Charm?

What was your first time like? Was it filled with love and joy? Was it with someone you absolutely adored and after long contemplation you decided you wanted to give yourself to that person? Was he gentle, or was she over aggressive? Was it a time you will always remember or a moment you wish you could forget?

For many of us our first sexual experience was not the beautiful fairy tale, love take me away scenario, although we wanted it to be (Or did we even know what we wanted it to be with the only examples most of us had was over exaggerated television). It was not well thought out and lacked any creativity at all. Some have told me that it hurt and was not exciting.

Some of us had sex for the first time because they thought it was the thing to do, or the other person would like you less if you didn’t do it.
I will share my story, and I believe we need to do this more to know we all have our unique stories but a lot of them are strikingly similar.

My first time happened in the living room of my boyfriend’s house while his grandmother was down stairs. Of course she did not know we were up there “being fresh”. This was my first time at his house at night, my mother wouldn’t allow it. He always had to come to my house.

At my house we did a lot of petting, kissing and touching with clothes on. This was fine with me. I thought that was it. I would never let him put his hands in my panties, not that I had any clue that I was saving myself, but it just seemed too much. I enjoyed just kissing. Furthermore I could not imagine at that time, by feeling his penis that that thing would go in me! I never even thought of intercourse as an option; maybe dry humping that’s it. He seemed frustrated at times but I didn’t know that’s what that meant. I thought his begging and persuasion was cute. I thought it meant he liked me more. He tried every time with the same results, except the night at grandma’s house.

I didn’t know being a virgin was a big deal until I started talking with my friends and cousins. At sleep-overs they would talk about their experiences, how they had sex with the “fine boy.” I would be like “You let him put it in?!” They would say to me “what you never did it?” It was not cool to be a virgin at that time. Everyone talked about doing it even if they hadn’t.

So I thought that soon I would have to do it too. I figured it would be that night at grandmas. I felt different that night. I had not actually planned for it to be then but I felt it. I was quite during the walk to his house. When we got in he put in a movie and we sat on the couch in the dark. We never watched a movie. I sat in silence waiting for what I knew was going to happen.

He finally made a move. We started kissing as usual and touching. I let him touch me this time and I guess he knew from this that I was going to “do it.” He then started to pull my pants down, then his, to his ankles. We kept everything else on. The couch was narrow and uncomfortable.

He asked me if I was sure, I didn’t say anything. I lay there as he tried to put “it” in. It was not working. He tried putting me on top, which definitely wasn’t working. He tried and tried then got tired of trying on the narrow couch. I wasn’t helping any either by just laying there wondering why he couldn’t do it.

As he walked me home he asked me was I a virgin. I said “No! I aint no virgin!” lying. I thought that wasn’t what he wanted. That night I tried to stretch my own vagina so that a penis would fit. I did not want to be the only virgin.

I guess this wasn’t my first time per-se, my actual first time (intercourse) was not much better. He strapped up with so much plastic. I mean condom two condoms and some other kind of plastic I think it was sandwich wrap. So of course it hurt even worse than without. I did make him take that stuff off. Afterwards I was looking for the blood my friends told me would be there. They told me he had to “pop my cherry” or I was still a virgin. There was a little and I felt nostalgic, accomplished and a little empty. I wondered if he would love me, would we be together and if my mother found out she would kill me!

Not very fairy-tale like, right? For some girls or woman there first experience with sex is very traumatic. Think about your first time? I ask you to do this because sometimes our current behaviors reflect past behaviors and experiences.
For example, If you had sex in the past because that’s what you thought others wanted of you or you thought they may like you less if you didn’t may be a thought pattern or behavior you are exhibiting today. Do you have trouble saying no? Do you lack assertiveness, do you lose who you are in relationships, have sex when you don’t want too?

These experiences can also be trapped in the body. Painful first time sex can make the genitals form protective mechanisms where they may become numb when experiencing intercourse or even memorize the pain and experience that every time. This may be the cause of so many non-orgasmic women. The numbers of women having some traumatizing sexual experience is alarming and so is the number of non-orgasmic women.

Check your thoughts about sex in the past, your first time, even the words we used to describe sex and anatomy, and compare them to your thoughts now. Have you grown? Has things gotten better for you? If they have always been good, that is wonderful. If not there are some things that need to be released.
The first step is to acknowledge there is healing to be done. Be honest with yourself and we can begin the process.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Dance Floor Orgasm

I have been really feeling the connection dance has to sexual energy and to being sensually present, more than usual and it feels great. I went dancing last night and during cool down I felt as if I was in trance. The room felt like a small caldron of bliss, the sounds blurred and I could not keep my eyes open. I resisted for a minute because I felt everyone would look at me like what in the world, but the feeling of bliss was so intense that it did not matter. Besides this was my moment of enjoyment and I didn’t care anymore. So I danced with my eyes closed being grateful for the moment. I begin to moan and felt a huge smile over my face. It felt so good. I thought if every woman would just dance and move with intent this could be a huge problem solver for the lack of femininity and sensuality that some are experiencing.

There was a great sense of joy that I felt. I opened my eyes and looked around. It seemed all the women were feeling it too! Those that became comfortable anyway. The look on their faces matched my feeling. Wow! When you have a group of women who let go of their insecurities, who are all shapes and sizes. Woman who feel comfortable with each other and let go of competition and jealousy, all in one room sharing energy as powerful as the energy generated in dance...Whoa we can move the world. Talking about collective orgasm!

This happened to me in dance class before. It was a little different however. There were live drums and more yang movement than belly dance. Again during cool down, or circle where everyone free styles, I had my eyes closed and this intense energy began to swim in my belly. It was one of the best feelings I’ve ever felt and I wanted to shout and jump and run for joy. I mean the feeling had no words to explain it.

Another time I saw this happen to someone else on the dance floor. We see this all the time, the intense bumping and grinding at the club or party. Some look like they are in trance and just need to get a room. They are in trance! That energy is powerful and moving through them strongly. It is a good thing. When they leave that party they will feel new and energized, sensual and powerful, mostly translated as "Man I had a blast!" How many times has this happened to you, you hit the dance floor and came away feeling more attractive and energized?

The party I went too, I watched this woman take this man through every position possible. I mean she worked him out on the dance floor. He did not know what hit him. He got into to it eventually after he got over the shock. In their own little corner they pulled hair and sweated and went through every asana they could in dance. There were also live drums at this party which made it even more intense. This was truly a sight to behold. I wonder if they got each other's number.

I mean music and movement can be an antidote for those who have not experienced orgasm or for those who have trouble being in the moment. Try it put on some music and dance like no-one is looking and feel the stress fall off, feel how powerful you will feel. Try dancing sensually and touching yourself while you are dancing, or try booty shaking and see how you feel. I bet you won't be disappointed.